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Published Jun 4, 2021

PSYCHOLOGIST REVEALS The #1 Thing HOLDING YOU BACK In Life! | Scott Barry Kaufman & Lewis Howes

Psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman joins Lewis Howes to explore the pillars of self-worth, the path to self-actualization, and the nuances of narcissism, while offering profound insights into fostering healthy relationships and personal growth.
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  • Self-Actualization

    emphasizes that self-actualization is about mastering one's craft and being proud of one's life, rather than seeking external validation. He explains that self-actualization involves finding the life that works best for you and taking full ownership of it 1. Kaufman also discusses Maslow's hierarchy of needs, explaining that self-actualization is about becoming all that one is uniquely capable of becoming, once basic needs like safety and connection are met 2.

    The whole point of self-actualization is, what does it mean to be the best you in the whole freaking world? Like, no one else has as much potential to be you than you.

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    Transcendence

    Transcendence, according to Kaufman, is an emergent phenomenon resulting from the harmonious integration of one's whole self in the service of cultivating a good society. He distinguishes between healthy and unhealthy transcendence, noting that true transcendence is not about seeking fame or external validation, but about finding deeper meaning and connection 3. Kaufman also reimagines Maslow's hierarchy of needs, presenting a new framework for living a great life that includes transcending life's challenges to become the best version of oneself 4.

    Healthy transcendence is an emergent phenomenon resulting from the harmonious integration of one's whole self in the service of cultivating the good society.

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    Purpose

    Finding purpose in life involves getting outside of one's ego and being aware of the needs of others. Kaufman suggests that purpose can be created through daily actions, such as caring for a pet or contributing to the well-being of others 5. He also emphasizes that purpose is not a singular, dramatic discovery but a series of callings that one can respond to by listening and being present 6.

    You create it. You don't discover it.

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