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Published Aug 19, 2020

Nikki Glaser Talks About SELF-WORTH, CONFIDENCE & What She Looks For In A RELATIONSHIP | Lewis Howes

Comedian Nikki Glaser shares her journey to self-worth and confidence, discussing the nuances of body image, vulnerability, and relationship dynamics, while offering an inside look at her comedic process and the resilience it requires.
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  • Intimacy Fears

    Nikki Glaser candidly discusses her deep-seated fears surrounding intimacy. She reveals that her biggest fear is letting someone truly know her and then facing rejection, a fear that many share. Nikki also talks about her apprehension towards sexual intimacy, despite being a very sexual person, due to the fear of rejection and repulsion during the act 1 2.

    I get scared of sex with men more than anything, even though it's all I want and think about. I'm like a very sexual person, but I don't have sex unless I love someone.

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    These fears highlight the complex nature of intimacy and the emotional barriers that can hinder genuine connections.

       

    Relationship Dynamics

    Nikki shares her thoughts on what she looks for in relationships and the importance of physical attraction. She emphasizes that while looks can initially attract someone, they are not a sustainable foundation for a relationship. Nikki also discusses the need for a combination of traits, such as personality and drive, to maintain a lasting connection 3 4.

    If everything about you is your looks, it's not a good thing to invest in because the looks are the only thing that are 100% going to fade.

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    This perspective underscores the importance of deeper qualities in building meaningful relationships.

       

    Embracing Vulnerability

    Nikki and Lewis Howes explore the impact of rejection and the importance of embracing vulnerability in relationships. Nikki admits that romantic rejection can deeply affect her, making her a person she doesn't like. Lewis suggests that accepting the pain of rejection is crucial for fully engaging in a relationship 5 6.

    Until you fully fall in love with that pain, you're not going to be able to fully throw yourself into a relationship.

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    This conversation highlights the necessity of vulnerability and self-acceptance in overcoming fears of intimacy and building stronger connections.

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