Your Thoughts Will Heal or Kill You with Marisa Peer and Lewis Howes

Criticism

Handling criticism is a skill that can transform how we perceive negative feedback. Marisa Peer suggests a simple yet effective approach: acknowledging the feedback without internalizing it. She explains, "When you learn that people can try and give you anything, but if you don't accept it, you haven't let it in, and if you don't let it in, it can't hurt you" 1. Lewis Howes shares his own experience of initially letting criticism consume him, leading to exhaustion from defending himself online 1. By choosing not to engage in a back-and-forth, one can maintain emotional balance and avoid unnecessary stress 2.

   

Resilience

Building resilience against bullying involves understanding the motivations behind it and refusing to internalize harmful words. Marisa Peer highlights that bullying often stems from the bully's own feelings of inferiority and attempts to dominate others 3. She advises that by not letting the insults in, individuals can demotivate bullies, as they lose the power to affect their targets. Peer states, "Critical people always have criticism reserved for themselves. They are full of self-criticism, but they reflect it out" 4. By employing techniques like not accepting criticism and understanding its roots, one can become "bulletproof" against such negativity 4.