Become the Master of Your Life with Aubrey Marcus and Lewis Howes

Initial Challenges

Aubrey Marcus opens up about the initial emotional turmoil he faced when starting an open relationship. He recalls the intense feelings of jealousy and physical reactions, such as dry heaving, during the early stages. Over time, these emotions have evolved into a more accepting and loving perspective, though challenges still arise 1.

The steady progress of just loving the people who love the people you love and recognizing that we're all just the same. We're all just looking for love.

--- Aubrey Marcus

This journey has taught him to embrace love in all its forms and to support his partner's happiness, even when it involves others.

   

Societal Reactions

Societal reactions to open relationships often involve assumptions and judgments. Aubrey Marcus notes that men and women face different pressures and attacks when discussing open relationships. Men might be seen as indulging in a fetish, while women face fears about relationship security 2.

The sheer weight of the pressure I don't think is different, but it applies differently. The attacks come in different angles, the stress comes in different ways.

--- Aubrey Marcus

He emphasizes the importance of living authentically and without regrets, drawing inspiration from the Lakota Sioux's philosophy of living each day fully 3.

   

Philosophical Beliefs

Reflecting on the philosophical beliefs behind open relationships, Aubrey Marcus advocates for a broader definition of physical love. He stresses the importance of communication and exploring what excites both partners. This approach helps in overcoming societal fears and judgments 4.

The mouth is the greatest sex organ of all, and it's not to be used in physical manual stimulation. It's for talking.

--- Aubrey Marcus

Marcus also highlights the need to be mindful of the fear we carry and how it affects our actions, using the example of hand washing as a metaphor for living in fear 5.