Why You FEEL LOST In Life & How To Find Your TRUE SELF AGAIN | Marisa Peer & Lewis Howes

Self-Praise

Marisa Peer highlights the importance of positive self-affirmation and self-praise. She explains that self-esteem is not something we are born without, but rather something that gets chipped away over time. Marisa shares a touching story about a boy who, despite a difficult start in life, thrived because he had a sense of his own worth:

With self-esteem, there is nothing on the planet that will build that faster than your own praise.

--- Marisa Peer

She also discusses how societal norms often teach us to reject praise, making it crucial to relearn how to accept and internalize positive feedback 1 2.

   

Intrinsic Worth

Understanding and affirming one's innate worthiness is crucial for personal growth. Marisa explains that everyone is born knowing they are lovable, but this belief often gets buried under negative experiences. She emphasizes the need to reclaim this intrinsic worth:

You have to decide, you are worth it. I'm worthy of love. I'm worthy of a phenomenal relationship. I'm worthy of success even.

--- Marisa Peer

Marisa also stresses the importance of clarity in what we want, as the mind will pursue clear, defined goals more effectively 3 4.

   

Handling Criticism

Marisa offers strategies to manage and not internalize criticism. She notes that critical people often project their own self-criticism onto others. By using techniques like asking critics to repeat their statements slowly, one can defuse negative comments.

Critical people always have criticism reserved for themselves. They are full of self-criticism, but they reflect it out.

--- Marisa Peer

Marisa advises that not letting criticism in can make one bulletproof, allowing individuals to maintain their self-worth despite external negativity 5 6.