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Published Jan 19, 2022

Why You FEEL LOST In Life & How To Find Your TRUE SELF AGAIN | Marisa Peer & Lewis Howes

Marisa Peer joins Lewis Howes to unveil transformative mindsets for overcoming negative thought patterns and addiction, highlighting the roles of self-praise, effective communication, and cognitive reframing in fostering resilience and self-worth. Gain practical insights to reclaim your true self by addressing childhood wounds, handling rejection, and reimagining praise to fuel personal growth.
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  • Boundaries

    Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. emphasizes the importance of self-love and not putting oneself last to please others. She explains that true self-love involves recognizing when actions are driven by a need for approval rather than genuine care 1. This understanding helps in making decisions that respect one's own needs and limits.

    If you get the first one right, the other two will click into place anyway. But again, you're back into that. I'm trying to buy your love. I'm trying to earn your affection. I'm trying to make you like me and people like you. When you like you enough to say, oh, this doesn't suit me.

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    adds that people-pleasing often leads to resentment, highlighting the importance of setting boundaries to avoid self-neglect 2.

       

    Praise

    Embracing and accepting praise is a vital aspect of self-love. notes that society often teaches us to reject praise, making it unfamiliar and uncomfortable. She encourages seeing praise as a gift and learning to accept it graciously 3. This practice can significantly boost self-esteem and self-worth.

    The thing that will raise and build your self esteem is praise. There is nothing. No Howes, no cookies, no candy, no sex, no drugs, no alcohol, nothing that will build your self esteem like praise.

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    also explains that positive self-talk and acknowledging one's own worth are key to fostering self-love and confidence 4.

       

    Rejection

    Handling rejection effectively is essential for personal growth. discusses how understanding the root of rejection fears can help mitigate their impact. She explains that rejection used to be a matter of survival, but in modern times, it no longer holds the same life-threatening consequences 5. Recognizing this can empower individuals to face rejection with resilience.

    You can't reject me unless I agree with everything. I don't like you because you got short hair. I don't like your shirt. I don't like you because you're white. Not white. Tall, short, glasses, not. But when you say, you can't reject me, I can't be rejected, because the only person you can reject me is me.

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    also shares practical strategies for dealing with bullying and criticism, emphasizing the importance of not internalizing negative comments 6.

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