Indirect Dating Success

Could you help me understand if my thinking is accurate regarding the dynamics of dating and relationships as discussed in the episodes #267: How to Cultivate a Strong Romantic Relationship with Nick Solaczek, Challenging Relationship Expectations, These RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS Show You What to Look for In A Life Partner & Find HAPPINESS and Asking the Hard Questions, as well as Mastering Dating, Relationships, and The Self with Matthew Hussey #246 and Creating Connection? I feel that men have to work hard to gain social status and financial stability to attract women, while women are pursued regardless of their qualities. It seems like there are often many men interested in one woman, giving her the power to choose. I'm frustrated by the idea that men have to chase after women and navigate complex social games to gain their interest. I love women and don't want to have a negative mindset, but sometimes I can't help but feel this way.