Vulnerability in Men

Could you help me understand if my thoughts about gender dynamics in dating, as discussed in the episode Lewis Howes || The Mask of Masculinity and the clip The Sexual Mask, where men have to work hard to gain social status and financial stability to attract women while women are pursued regardless of their qualities, are valid? It seems like there are often many men interested in one woman, giving her the power to choose. I'm frustrated by the idea that men have to chase after women and navigate complex social games to gain their interest. I love women and don't want to have a negative mindset, but sometimes I can't help but feel this way.