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Published Mar 11, 2019

STOP DOING These Things If You Want To FIND LOVE TODAY |DeVon Franklin & Lewis Howes

DeVon Franklin joins Lewis Howes to discuss intentional dating, the vital role of honesty in relationships, daily practices for marital success, and the journey of healing from personal trauma.
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  • Intentional Dating

    Intentional dating is about being clear and honest with your intentions from the start. explains that men should communicate their intentions to avoid misleading their partners and to foster genuine connections. He stresses the importance of women asking direct questions to avoid the 'grey area' in relationships, where intentions are unclear and power dynamics are skewed 1 2.

    When you're dating with intention, you're letting everybody know, listen, here's where I am. Here's what I'm doing. Very, very important as a man.

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    adds that early honesty can help both parties understand each other's goals and avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

       

    Love vs. Lust

    Understanding the difference between love and lust is crucial for building lasting relationships. highlights that many men struggle with prioritizing love over lust, often leading to superficial connections and personal dissatisfaction. He argues that true success and peace come from mastering one's impulses and fostering genuine love 3 4.

    All of us struggle between love and lust. And the issue is getting control, getting discipline, getting mastery, to the degree where I don't believe we can ever eradicate lust.

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    also notes that societal conditioning often encourages men to pursue multiple partners, which can lead to chaos rather than fulfillment.

       

    Foundation of Love

    believes that love is the foundation of a fulfilling life. He explains that many men are not taught how to love properly, leading to a deficiency in their personal lives despite professional success. Franklin emphasizes that love, not lust, should be the guiding principle in relationships 5 6.

    Love is what this is all about. It really is. It's what life's about. It's not about the money, it's not about the power, it's not about the fame, it's not about the success. It's about love, period.

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    He argues that cultivating love leads to better relationships, families, and communities.

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