ASK THESE 3 QUESTIONS When Dating To See If They're RIGHT FOR YOU! | DeVon Franklin & Lewis Howes

Clear Communication

Clear communication is vital in setting and managing expectations within relationships. DeVon Franklin highlights that assuming a partner knows your expectations without explicitly stating them can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. He stresses the importance of discussing expectations openly to ensure compatibility and avoid unspoken frustrations 1. Franklin notes, "Unspoken expectations are relationship killers. You treat the person as if you have spoken it and they know it" 2.

   

Self-Assessment

Self-assessment plays a crucial role in identifying and setting personal expectations. Franklin advises individuals to prioritize their happiness and self-care, rather than relying on their partners to fulfill these needs 3. He explains that understanding one's own contributions to relationship problems is essential for growth and resolution. Lewis Howes adds, "Why is this a problem for me?" highlighting the need to address personal triggers 4.

   

Managing Expectations

Managing unmet expectations requires strategies for effective communication and self-awareness. Franklin discusses the challenges of communicating expectations out of frustration, which often leads to defensiveness and conflict 5. He emphasizes that love diminishes and fear rises when control or manipulation enters a relationship. Franklin states, "Every moment that I do it, and it's not in my heart is a moment that my soul gets crushed" 6.