How To Use The LAW OF ATTRACTION To Find Love! | Lewis Howes

Chemistry vs. Connection

Chemistry in relationships is often misunderstood. Stephan Speaks explains that chemistry is the art of getting along and can be created or destroyed through interaction. However, he stresses that while chemistry is important, it is not the foundation of a relationship; connection is. He elaborates that connection is a deeper, almost spiritual recognition between individuals that cannot be manufactured or broken 1.

Connection cannot be created, nor can it be destroyed. It's either there or it's not.

--- Stephan Speaks

Compatibility, on the other hand, is more logical and based on shared values and backgrounds, but without connection, it falls short 2.

   

Authenticity

Building a true connection requires authenticity and vulnerability. Stephan emphasizes the importance of being your true self with your partner, as real connection loves you at your core. He suggests activities like road trips without distractions to test the strength of your connection 3. Marisa Peer adds that our primitive need for connection is rooted in survival, and feeling different can hinder this 4.

We connect by being the same. If you're different, it's very hard to connect because you feel different.

--- Marisa Peer

Understanding this can help overcome fears of disconnection and foster deeper relationships.

   

Overcoming Fears

Challenges in building connections often stem from past hurts and the fear of being different. Marisa advises against returning to those who have hurt you, suggesting instead to seek new, healthier relationships 5. She explains that our greatest fear is disconnection, but recognizing that everyone shares this fear can be liberating 6.

Stop going back to people that hurt you and find there are people all over the world that will love you and fill you up.

--- Marisa Peer

By understanding and addressing these fears, we can build stronger, more fulfilling connections.