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Shame Resilience

Shame is an inevitable part of the human experience, but we can develop resilience to it. Brené Brown explains that when shame washes over us, it's crucial to recognize it and avoid reacting impulsively. Instead, she advises taking a moment to process the emotion and speak to oneself with compassion, as one would to a loved one 1. This approach helps prevent the negative effects of shame from escalating and allows for healthier emotional responses.

When it happens and it washes over that warm wash that makes you feel small and not enough, when that washes over me, rather than yelling at my kids or just decimating myself with hateful language, you know, and like, you're stupid or you're not. Now when it washes over me, I'm like, okay, I'm in shame. Don't talk, text or type what happened.

--- Brené Brown

By acknowledging shame and treating oneself kindly, we can mitigate its impact and foster resilience 2.

   

Coping Strategies

Owning our stories is a powerful way to cope with shame. Lewis Howes shares his experience of overcoming the shame of being sexually abused by openly discussing it, which helped him reclaim his narrative 3. Brené Brown emphasizes that vulnerability is not a weakness but a measure of courage, urging people to show up authentically despite the fear of judgment 4.

Vulnerability is not weakness. It's about the willingness to show up and be seen when you can't control the outcome. And it is actually our greatest measure of courage.

--- Brené Brown

By embracing vulnerability and sharing our experiences, we can deflate shame and foster deeper connections with others.