Published Apr 19, 2023

The DARK TRUTH About Success, Happiness & FINDING PURPOSE | Wayne Brady & Lewis Howes

Wayne Brady reveals his journey of chasing validation and finding inner peace, while he and Lewis Howes delve into the healing power of therapy and self-love, and the generational influences that shaped his resilience and values.
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  • Work Ethic

    Wayne Brady attributes his strong work ethic to lessons from his grandmother, who instilled the importance of showing up daily, even in the face of depression. He describes the struggle of functioning when feeling utterly depleted, yet emphasizes the necessity of pushing through for the sake of his responsibilities 1. Brady also reflects on the generational perspectives within his family, noting the strict discipline enforced by his father and the emotional restraint he experienced growing up 2. This upbringing, while challenging, contributed to his resilience and determination.

    I've got to show up for people. I have to show up for my daughter. I have to show up for my job.

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    These experiences have profoundly shaped his approach to life and work.

       

    Resilience

    Brady discusses the duality of his grandmother's teachings, acknowledging both their toxic and beneficial aspects. While her insistence on pushing through hardships without discussing emotions was challenging, it also instilled a sense of resilience in him 3. He shares how making his bed each morning became a symbolic act of commitment to face the day, a practice that helped him navigate some of the darkest periods of his life.

    If I make my bed, I have no option now, because I've made my bed, it is. You could bounce a quarter off of it. I can't get back in that bed.

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    This routine, rooted in his grandmother's lessons, has been a cornerstone of his perseverance.

       

    Family Dynamics

    Family dynamics played a significant role in Brady's development. He recounts the complex relationship with his mother, who was largely absent during his upbringing, and how they have worked to rebuild their bond in recent years 4. Brady also reflects on his relationship with his daughter, appreciating her ability to express herself and the lessons she has taught him about being a better man 5.

    I love that she has a voice. Because I was not raised in a household where you weren't allowed to talk back to your parents.

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    These relationships have been pivotal in his personal growth and understanding of family.

       

    Chosen Family

    Brady emphasizes the importance of chosen family, highlighting the strong bonds he has formed with his ex-wife, her partner, and their children. He describes how these relationships have provided stability and support throughout his life 6. This chosen family has been instrumental in his personal and professional success, demonstrating that family is defined by love and mutual support rather than blood alone.

    Your family is whoever is good for your soul and is on your team. Blood does not necessarily make family.

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    These connections have been a source of strength and inspiration for him.

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